As I said in my last post...
By recognizing and then loosening your grip on magical thinking, you'll find new energy, new resilience, fun, and hope.
- Notice one aspect of life in which you're waiting for some magical solution to appear. Money, relationships, job, lifestyle and health are common areas for magical thinking.
- Name what you're wishing would change, such as:
- more satisfying work
- no more debt
- more travel
- better appearance
- happier family life
- ...or whatever is on your mind
- without energy
- When I think about my huge debt load, I feel tired and hopeless. I wish Uncle John would die and leave me his money.
- I wish God would just change Susan so we'd be happier. She really makes me mad. Maybe she'll just leave, and I won't have to deal with this mess.
- If only I could win the lottery, big time. Then I could quit my lousy job and travel around the world.
- I don't like being in debt, but I will change that myself. If Uncle John wants to help, that's a bonus, but I don't need him to die for me to get out of debt. I'll take an honest look at my finances and see what my options are.
- I 'm not happy with my marriage and the messes Susan has created. But I'm an adult, and I can take a look at my part of things and do something about that. And I'll ask God to help me with me.
- I've waited for ten years to win the lottery, but I just keep losing. I don't like my job, but I need an income. So I will make a list of the pro's and con's about this job, and I'll start a savings account for trips I want to take. Then I'll decide where to go from there.
So, the last step (#8) in changing your magical thinking about a situation is to actually do something concrete. Make a budget or talk to a credit counsellor...and then follow his or her suggestions. Stop blaming others, look honestly at your own undesirable behaviours, and change them. Quit your job or change your attitude about the one you have. Start a savings account with $2, if that's what you have.
eight suggestions for doing just that: